I was listening to one of my podcasts** on my way to work, Girlfriends by Danielle Bean and one of the feedback messages she had was on the limited amount of blogs for the parents of the bigs…..teens and young adults and it got me to thinking. So much thinking. I don’t even think I can fit it ALL in on one post, because my head just doesn’t release my thoughts sometimes….but I’ll give it a try.
Here is where I date myself and on the same hand don’t even care. (The blessings of the backside of 40, ladies….it is a gift!!) The advent of technology has me absolutely feeling like an old lady though. For example, “back in my day we made friends at the park and playgroups, cell phones were a luxury and if you were dealing with parenting issues you reached out to your group of real life friends.” You see, internet was sparse back in the old days. Dial up. Sloooooooow. And it was so new that it was just weird–because it was different. The thought that you could make a community of friends on the internet was just well….a thought best kept to yourself.
Fast forward 15 years and my GOODNESS how times have changed!!
There are amazing communities of faith filled women, Mamas who have been there and done that for advice and Mamas who are trudging through it in solidarity. We have the double edged sword of social media with all it’s pretty pictures, real life messes, fun videos and videos of what’s really going down in the kitchen at the arsenic hour. What an amazing and challenging time to be a parent, especially of littles. The world of evangelization just leveled up, BIG TIME! And it is a club that I’m not sure if I will ever feel feel comfortable in..trul: I only snapchat my real life friends, barely instastory and keep my grams pretty tame…facebook, you are mostly dead to me. True story.
And then you get into the season of the bigs. At first, I thought that perhaps just not “coming of age” with the combination of internets and parenting makes me a little leary of all things world wide–the discomfort and unfamiliarity of it all. However, I also found upon further reflection that these babies are now growing into young adults who want the internet on THEIR terms and not of their blogging mother. And so I resist. And then, I hear the feedback that reminded me there are so many ways to bless others with this technology and we can all use this to encourage and build up (even though we often see it turn on honesty and genuineness). So, it’s a balance of protecting the privacy of your growing people and sharing in the gift and challenge of parenting—what works for others, tips and life hacks to grow in faith and realize that we AREN’T THE ONLY ONES dealing with x, y, and z.
In the past, I have shared some of our trials in this season and have even written on the very painful time of our son’s episodic struggle with anorexia-type issues and likely I will very soon write about our daughter’s recent depression recurrence. The fear of being so transparent in a world wide arena holds me back though. This past week, however, reminded me that we are NOT alone and if blogging helps me process and encourages someone else in the same battle then I will do it. But first…..Imma gonna pray on the next post.
In the meantime, if you have a second, minute, hour, pray for Leticia Adams and family whose son ended his battle with depression this week.
St. Dymphna, pray for us.
**Adventures in imperfect living by Greg and Jennifer Willets