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About tracye1

A wee bit about me, Tracy. Married to my high school sweetie for a looooong time. Mama of 4 beautiful kiddos, now ADULTS!!!! This blog is a potpourri of posts. Some wax on about my Catholic faith, others family, some are just a “diary” of life updates. Life is a journey, taken one day at a time (sometimes one step at a time) and my blog is about my personal trek through life. Peace!

Love God, Love your neighbor…easy, right?

Today’s Gospel reading:

GospelMt 22:34-40

When the Pharisees heard that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees,
they gathered together, and one of them,
a scholar of the law tested him by asking,
“Teacher, which commandment in the law is the greatest?” 
He said to him,
“You shall love the Lord, your God,
with all your heart,
with all your soul,
and with all your mind.
This is the greatest and the first commandment.
The second is like it:
You shall love your neighbor as yourself. 
The whole law and the prophets depend on these two commandments.”
Heard it a million times.  Rolls off my tongue often, reminding my children that they ARE each other’s neighbors and to be kind and loving, for crying out loud!!!  Our pastor’s homily truly resounded with the Gospel in which he asked us how many times we truly LOVE our neighbor and some really, REALLY good reasons why NOT to love our neighbor.
Loving your neighbor might put you in a tricky position of “how much does one give to help out?”  And I thank God for the neighbor who employed my husband for two months of solid work right out of prison.  No judgement.  No pity.   A hand up.
Loving your neighbor might put you in a tricky position of getting sucked into someone else’s drama.  And I think of all my patients who come in and just need a friendly ear for a few minutes, as their days consist of being homebound, at the mercy of others, with families who might be too far away to help, (geographically or emotionally), and they just need someone to care and listen…even if it’s just a few minutes.
Loving your neighbor might put you in a tricky position of giving away some of your time, talent or treasures.  And I thank God for all the generosity of friends bestowed up us while hubby was “away” at Christmas and throughout the year, material possessions, housing during our visitation trips, babysitting during our visitation trips, prayer requests and prayerful guidance and mentoring during difficult times.
Loving your neighbor might put you in a tricky position of sharing your house for an extended period of time.  And I thank God for parents who put us up in their home for 5 years while the kids were small until I was able to do it myself.
Loving your neighbor might put you in the tricky position of opening up to new friends and putting your heart and humility on the line until you see if that friendship blossoms.  And so we did:
We had two sets of our neighbors over for dinner yesterday evening.  It was nice.  A lovely fall temperature, windows open, kids playing, enjoying the back porch and some white chicken chili, pumpkin muffins, jalapeno cornbread, hamburgers and veggies and dip, followed by ghosts in the graveyard desert.  Yum.  But it was also a time to catch up on each other’s lives and scratch a bit below the surface niceties.  Trading parenting and homework-helping tips.  Chasing toddlers, watching a baby nod off in papa’s arms, letting teens and tweens socialize through grunts and no agenda for any of us.  And it was nice.  To break bread.  To get to know our neighbors better. And to be loved.  Knowing that these people are living out God’s commandments as they “go against the grain” of society in be-friending a felon and his family.  As we went to bed last night, hubby said it was nice to have such a “normal” evening.  And it WAS nice.  And I thank God for beautiful moments like this.

I can’t do it all!!

I am fascinated by some of my friends and the number of TV shows they DVR and actually watch!!  And I wonder what in the heck am I doing wrong?  Personally, I have nothing against TV (though some of the content shown is suspect, and seriously??  I know CSI is a huge hit, but how many versions do we need????) but I just can’t seem to find time to watch it.  Truth be told, without DVR, I don’t think I’d have the patience for it either.  So, I am dissecting my “problem” this morning, in the wee, quiet hours of the morning with the windows open and the entire house blissfully still sleeping.

1.  We have 4 children and currently 1 TV.  Our kids actually don’t watch a ton of TV; they enjoy it, but prefer to be doing other things.  Of course with time change right around the corner, outside activities will be curtailed at an earlier hour and as a result, TV viewing will go up.  It’s a cycle…However, there is frequently homework to be done, reviewed and helped with; blaring TV’s (even softly blaring) are a huge distraction and so it stays off.

2.  I like to read.  We all actually like to read.  nerdy.  I’m good with it.   And once we enforce “reading time” we usually have to wrestle the books out of their hands for lights out….one more page, please???  ahhhh, it’s great.  The 14 year-old is a little trickier, but once he gets a book he enjoys….look out.  The 8 year-old likes to talk about reading…for a LONG time…before she actually reads, but then she’s hooked and obsessed with how many pages she’s read and how many are left, so reading AND math=double bonus!!  and so the TV stays off.

3.  I get up ridiculously early.  We have 4 children (see #1) and I enjoy peace and quiet.  O’Dark Hundred is the only true peace and quiet I can call my own.  Even dear hubby knows…don’t talk to me in the morning until I’ve had at LEAST my first cup of coffee!!  I read the Daily Readings, pray, blog, catch up on news and Facebook and drink coffee.  Some days I mix it up and go to the gym.  Or with the cooler weather, walk around the neighborhood instead of the stuffy gym.  The TV doesn’t work well with these activities. and so it stays off.

4.  I like sleep.  and since I get up ridiculously early (see #3), I really need to hit the hay earlier to get a respectable 7 hours.  I love our bed.  It’s like a big marshmallow.  Open window+Cool fall air+cozy comforter+good book+kids in bed=happiness.  ABSOLUTELY no room for the TV in that.  and so it stays off.

5.  I like to catch up with hubby.  Now with all those kids, homework, extracurricular activities and stuff, we have to fight for those minutes and therefore….the TV stays off.

And now that I’ve dissected WHY I don’t get to my several behind episodes of Gene Simmons and Real Housewives (yeah, quality TV, baby!) I am continually fascinated by my friends.  HOW do they get ANYthing done?!?!  I clearly need to work on my organizational skills or learn to live with less sleep and quite honestly, I just don’t feel like doing either!

Proverbs 31:15  She rises up while it is still night and provides food for her family and portions for her female servants.

OK, disclaimer here…I don’t profess to be a Proverbs 31 wife, though it IS still dark when I rise, my early rising makes me a better mom and wife, sometimes I DO get the crock pot going, but I don’t have female servants…unless you count doling out chores for my daughters.  Just didn’t want anyone thinking I’m all that….but getting up early really works for ME.  and so does keeping the TV (mostly) off.  

Our God is an AWESOME God!!!

Hubby was having a tossy-turny kind of night last night and I was afraid he was up for the day at 3 A.M.!!   However, he said when he was tossing and turning at 3 A.M. he felt the call to go look at the stars  (the FIRST thing he does when he wakes up in the morning) and he saw a shooting star. He was able to go  back to sleep until 5.

God is good.

With the brisk fall temperatures this morning, I opted for a walk around the neighborhood today versus the gym.  Unfortunately, I didn’t get to see my own shooting star, but the morning sky did not disappoint with thebrightly shining  crescent moon and array of twinkling stars; add in the crisp air and the day is off to a great start!

God is good.

Talking with a friend the other day as to what some expectations are for their family as their son begins to serve his sentence,  I am reminded that God IS good. All the time. In every situation. Though their journey is just “beginning”, I have every confidence that God will guide them through every step of this chapter. Time will fly. Time will standstill.   Holidays, birthdays, and family celebrations will come and go. Life goes on. And God is there. On both sides of the fence.   Waiting for the invitation to let Him take over. To trust in His plan. To let go.

God is good.

Rejoicing with a friend at the long awaited news of a pregnancy after many, many years. God is good.   Praying for friends who hope to adopt after years of infertility. God is good.

“This is the day that the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it!” Psalm 118:24  

(my prayer mantra during my marathon run in Nashville in 2000)

Mary is MY Homegirl….or Love me some Rosary!!

October.  And if you are Catholic, like me, you may know it’s the month we celebrate Mary and the Rosary.  If you aren’t Catholic, or you might want to be or even if you just are curious as to what in the world I am talking about, you can Google more info on this or even check this link for more information; and in a week or so, one of my favorite podcasters, Pat Gohn will be featuring Rosary stories on her podcast, Among Women.  

When Pat was asking for contributions of “What the Rosary means to you…”, I was really kind of surprised at what a HUGE impact Mary and the Rosary have in my life.  Don’t get me wrong, I am FULLY aware that my Faith and trust in Christ have gotten me where I am today, however, when I put it into words, it was pretty apparent that Mary has my back, and has for quite sometime.

The Rosary has been one of my favorite prayers for many years now, probably taking hold of my heart since a “Christ Renews His Parish” retreat 11 years ago.  A great way to focus on Christ’s life as it pertains to my own.

  • On 9-11 I sobbed my way through as my husband and I prayed at the end of the day.
  • During EVERY 7 hour trip to and from visiting my husband in prison.
  • For every 45 minute commute to work/school the first year of his incarceration.
  • Sunday evening family Rosary time with the kids–even amidst the squabbling, wrestling, exhaustion and mayhem 4 kids can create during “prayer” time, by the 3rd decade we almost always hit our peaceful stride.
  • During Lenten Adoration time.  A time when I put away MY concerns and focus on others…..though I do my best throughout the year, during Lent I am FAR more consistent…but don’t worry….if you ask me to pray for you, I’m ON it!!
  • When our 2nd oldest struggled with night terrors at age 10 (terrifying for ME, especially when he hopped on the couch on his haunches and stuck his tongue out!), at the suggestion of a friend who had similar experiences with one of her sons, he began to sleep with his Rosary; we put the Rosary on his iPod and 2 years later he and his brother fall asleep with it almost nightly; not to mention the terrors ended almost immediately when introducing the Rosary on “repeat” all night long.
  • With our youngest child and “diva” at bedtime–our most NOT favorite time, but improving with Mary’s help, we’ve had a great run several nights in a row!
  •  And now with my husband home, and our family re-united,  we work toward establishing our new Rosary routine!

We have Rosaries in the car, my purse, the kid’s rooms and several in a desk (see picture above).  So anytime you want to pray the Rosary, come on over…we’ve got plenty!!  Now if  you’ll excuse me, my procrastinating self has a lot to do in the next 45 minutes to get ready to get out-of-town on a girl’s weekend!

Hail Mary, full of grace.
Our Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God,
pray for us sinners,
now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.


This is the day….

Up early to take hubby to his Sunday morning gig and it was still DARK when we left the house.  Coming home, however, the sun was beginning to rise.  I took the extra 15 minutes and headed over the bridge to breathe the salt, let the 59 degree air tickle my skin and enjoy the quiet of the morning.  No wonder I am a morning person!!!  (maybe next time I’ll take my REAL camera and not just my iPhone….)

 

 

No traffic…just quiet….

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Nothing like the beach at Sunrise….

This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and give thanks in Him!   Psalm 118:24