Category Archives: Prison

So THAT’S how I talk…

A while back I agreed to do an interview with Pat Gohn from the Among Women pod cast.  She’s a wonderful speaker (voice like butter!) and I always enjoy her pod casts:  part women Saints history and the other part an interview with various women on various topics.  I love getting a glimpse into other people’s lives, their faith walk and how they incorporate their faith into this world.  Her program feeds my “spiritual voyeurism” and encourages me to keep on keepin’ on.  We all need that from time to time, don’t we?  Back to the interview…..she asked me to speak about MY faith and how it was tested, evolved and sustained me through our own trials.  For some reason I agreed.  Completely out of my comfort zone, I assure you.  However, I had prayed for a long time that if our suffering and faith walk were ever to be a comfort and encouragement to others, than  “Lord, here I am”.

Pat was amazing.  Having NEVER done anything like this in my life, she guided me each step of the way.  Beginning with a draft AND a word count (sheesh!), she edited my story showing me where to fill in the holes.  Once I got going, I didn’t worry about the word count, the story wrote itself.  We Skyped a couple of times to go over things and prep and then came the interview.  It was like chatting with a dear friend over coffee, which is exactly as she wants it to feel.  HOW does she do that???

In the end, the show was aired this week.  I listened yesterday and once I stopped counting my “uh’s and umm’s” (a public speaking gig I won’t be pursuing any time soon) I listened.  And relived.  And stepped out of myself.  And praised God for a wonderful work that  He has done in our family. (and continues to do so daily)  I also realized that I need to get back to THAT place of prayer and faith that I purely lived in heart, mind and soul for so long.  I hope it was somewhat of a tribute to how God blessed us so amazingly with family and friends in our life willing to do His work for us.  It really does take a village and our family, our children, have been blessed mightily in spite of this period of difficulty.

So cling to Him.  He will deliver you.  Today’s Readings are of Esther asking for God to put the words in her mouth to release her people.  She gives Him full reign, full obedience.  Waiting on direction.  The Psalms remind us that when we call on the Lord, He DOES hear us.  We are to trust.  And in the Gospel according to Matthew, Jesus reminds us to ask, seek and the door will be opened.  And if even we as earthly parents give our children what the ask for can we even IMAGINE what God can do for us.  I’m here to tell you, it’s true.  Every bit.  It’s a huge step in faith.  Easy to say, but that first step is a doozy and won’t be one you regret.

Blessings!

Wrapping up the week…

Friday and since I am on a roll, I figured I would once again participate in 7 Quick Takes with lots of other people!  You can check in over @ Betty Beguiles for all kinds of fun, weekly reports from all over the world!

  1. I’ve started reading the Hunger Games.  The fact that I can come up with 6 other things while getting sucked into this book is amazing in itself.  yes.  I just called myself amazing.
  2. After getting the new and revised football schedule for our son I was able to hammer down some plans to visit with friends and my sister in our old town in a couple of weeks.  While I’m there, I’ll get to see the daughter of a good friend play the lead in “To Kill a Mockingbird”.  And get to visit with my sis and some friends.  Bonus!  This particular weekend actually has friends out-of-town and other activities so the group is much smaller, but sometimes God plans it that way and I’m trying real hard to stop second guessing Him.  His plans are generally far more awesome than mine anyway.
  3. Speaking of football, Hubby was able to get our son a new smaller helmet and boy did that make ALL the difference for our boy.  He came home a different kid.  Being the first year of “tackle football” after many years of “flag” it’s been a little eye-opening and my whole reasoning of steering AWAY from tackle all these years has been affirmed.  My boy is bruised, sweaty, tired, learning to deal with hydration and migraines if not hydrated. and he LOVES it.  OY!  What’s a mama to do???  I bought him a bigger water bottle/jug and am ready to cheer him on next weekend at his first game–double header.  GO SHARKS!  (I’ll just keep my whining and fear under my cap…..)
  4. Good exercising this week.  Even snuck in a walk with Hubby tonight.  In between refereeing bickering girls we even got to chat some.   Now that’s good stuff.  After celebrating our first Valentine’s day together in YEARS, it’s been a good week.  To say the least.
  5. Made a DEE-LISH ham and bean soup this week in the crock pot.  Love.  The.  Crock-Pot!!  The kicker is that I actually remembered to soak the beans overnight. it was a hit with all but one child (who has pretty consistently always been the picky eater of the family.  ah, his loss)  oh.  and the recipe?  Totally winged it.  Did I say I was amazing?  😉  well, if I can replicate it….than believe it!  To be continued….
  6. I have a few new followers this week.  WOO hoo!  Almost to 20!  I would love to really sit down and write/blog more regularly, but HOLY COW, it takes time.  effort.  patience.  I am lacking in all areas.  Kudos to you writers  out there!  However, I do have a couple “mental health days” I am taking off of work and I wonder if I will get any writing/blogging done or just put the smack down on chores and errands.  Right now I think God has me right where He wants me and if He wants me to blog more, that window will open, for now it’s good practice!
  7. Our friends are coming to visit this weekend!  So exciting!!  My husband’s fraternity brother and his wife and their two boys.  We’ve known each other since college, but MB and I became close these past few years while Hubby was away.  And I am so grateful for God’s timing in this friendship.  What a gem.  There is something intimately comforting when you can share your heart and the Lord with a dear friend.  And she most definitely is one!  The forecast is for rainy weather but I think we will figure something out.  Looking forward to catching up and relaxing!

Happy Friday to all!  God Bless!

 

It’s the end of the week as we know it….

  • I’ve finally made some headway into writing the story of our family’s Faith walk through our years of incarceration.  For some reason, (I’m going with the Holy Spirit’s leading on this one), I haven’t been able to write.  Perhaps it’s nerves.  Either way it’s begun and to say it’s mind-blowing to look back on how firmly we were under the protection of the Lord, and still are, is truly amazing.  God IS good.  In the midst of it all, He is good, He is present and He loves.
  • We are going to attempt a photo shoot (complete with tripod) for our Christmas card this weekend.  I have a mental block on ANY Christmas shopping until our card is done, ordered and MAILED–shortly after Thanksgiving (I like to be one of the first–I’m weird like that!!).   I’d love to do a post on the pics that don’t make the cut.  You know the ones….”he’s touching me, I’m TIRED of smiling….this is boring….WHY do we do this EVERY year”…and so on and so on….at least they are a little older and tend to sit longer for pictures these days…mostly…
  • I have pinpointed my errors in lack of pre-planning for our week with the dueling football and softball schedules.  I now have a plan going forth.  Not surprisingly, it usually takes me a couple of weeks to “work out the kinks” when change is upon us!  There will be freezer meals a-cookin’ in the casa this weekend!!
  • The weather is changing, the air is fabulous and crisp.  Now to decide if we will be brave enough to go through with our scheduled stand up paddleboard trip on Saturday morning.  It’s supposed to be in the low 70’s and sunny….and I suppose if I stay OUT of the water it will be OK…
  • Had a great two days of exercise in early this week.  Mid-week…ummmm, let’s call that “recovery” and here’s to hoping the week finishes BIG with a fun and physical weekend–which of course, means I have to get off the laptop and walk this morning before work…
  • Successful purging of summer clothes into fall/winter clothes is complete with a VERY small list of “needs” for the girls (even smaller for the boys) AND I managed to make it to the Post office to send off some winter shoes I purged to a dear friend’s daughter.
  • I can’t believe it’s been 10 years since 9-11.  Wow.  There are no words.  Prayers for all the souls of the lost.  Prayers for the families who annually relive that day.  Prayers for peace in this world.
  • It’s the end of the week…the kids sweetly asked if I would have today off also for Veteran’s day, but alas….not so much.  Daddy is working from home to oversee activities and such, so for THAT I am heartily grateful!  And on that note, I think I will grab some sweatpants and go for a brisk walk and get this day started!!  Happy Weekend, y’all!!

Love God, Love your neighbor…easy, right?

Today’s Gospel reading:

GospelMt 22:34-40

When the Pharisees heard that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees,
they gathered together, and one of them,
a scholar of the law tested him by asking,
“Teacher, which commandment in the law is the greatest?” 
He said to him,
“You shall love the Lord, your God,
with all your heart,
with all your soul,
and with all your mind.
This is the greatest and the first commandment.
The second is like it:
You shall love your neighbor as yourself. 
The whole law and the prophets depend on these two commandments.”
Heard it a million times.  Rolls off my tongue often, reminding my children that they ARE each other’s neighbors and to be kind and loving, for crying out loud!!!  Our pastor’s homily truly resounded with the Gospel in which he asked us how many times we truly LOVE our neighbor and some really, REALLY good reasons why NOT to love our neighbor.
Loving your neighbor might put you in a tricky position of “how much does one give to help out?”  And I thank God for the neighbor who employed my husband for two months of solid work right out of prison.  No judgement.  No pity.   A hand up.
Loving your neighbor might put you in a tricky position of getting sucked into someone else’s drama.  And I think of all my patients who come in and just need a friendly ear for a few minutes, as their days consist of being homebound, at the mercy of others, with families who might be too far away to help, (geographically or emotionally), and they just need someone to care and listen…even if it’s just a few minutes.
Loving your neighbor might put you in a tricky position of giving away some of your time, talent or treasures.  And I thank God for all the generosity of friends bestowed up us while hubby was “away” at Christmas and throughout the year, material possessions, housing during our visitation trips, babysitting during our visitation trips, prayer requests and prayerful guidance and mentoring during difficult times.
Loving your neighbor might put you in a tricky position of sharing your house for an extended period of time.  And I thank God for parents who put us up in their home for 5 years while the kids were small until I was able to do it myself.
Loving your neighbor might put you in the tricky position of opening up to new friends and putting your heart and humility on the line until you see if that friendship blossoms.  And so we did:
We had two sets of our neighbors over for dinner yesterday evening.  It was nice.  A lovely fall temperature, windows open, kids playing, enjoying the back porch and some white chicken chili, pumpkin muffins, jalapeno cornbread, hamburgers and veggies and dip, followed by ghosts in the graveyard desert.  Yum.  But it was also a time to catch up on each other’s lives and scratch a bit below the surface niceties.  Trading parenting and homework-helping tips.  Chasing toddlers, watching a baby nod off in papa’s arms, letting teens and tweens socialize through grunts and no agenda for any of us.  And it was nice.  To break bread.  To get to know our neighbors better. And to be loved.  Knowing that these people are living out God’s commandments as they “go against the grain” of society in be-friending a felon and his family.  As we went to bed last night, hubby said it was nice to have such a “normal” evening.  And it WAS nice.  And I thank God for beautiful moments like this.

Our God is an AWESOME God!!!

Hubby was having a tossy-turny kind of night last night and I was afraid he was up for the day at 3 A.M.!!   However, he said when he was tossing and turning at 3 A.M. he felt the call to go look at the stars  (the FIRST thing he does when he wakes up in the morning) and he saw a shooting star. He was able to go  back to sleep until 5.

God is good.

With the brisk fall temperatures this morning, I opted for a walk around the neighborhood today versus the gym.  Unfortunately, I didn’t get to see my own shooting star, but the morning sky did not disappoint with thebrightly shining  crescent moon and array of twinkling stars; add in the crisp air and the day is off to a great start!

God is good.

Talking with a friend the other day as to what some expectations are for their family as their son begins to serve his sentence,  I am reminded that God IS good. All the time. In every situation. Though their journey is just “beginning”, I have every confidence that God will guide them through every step of this chapter. Time will fly. Time will standstill.   Holidays, birthdays, and family celebrations will come and go. Life goes on. And God is there. On both sides of the fence.   Waiting for the invitation to let Him take over. To trust in His plan. To let go.

God is good.

Rejoicing with a friend at the long awaited news of a pregnancy after many, many years. God is good.   Praying for friends who hope to adopt after years of infertility. God is good.

“This is the day that the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it!” Psalm 118:24  

(my prayer mantra during my marathon run in Nashville in 2000)